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ne: 03-03-2009, 23:35:23
10 Things Not to Share with Your Co-workers

Most of us spend more time at the workplace with colleagues than anywhere else. So it just comes natural that we talk about many other things than simply work. In fact, this is even essential in order to build a good relationship with your co-workers. Maybe you go down the pub with them on Fridays and some of your colleagues you even count as real friends.

However, it is important to know where to draw the line. There are certain things co-workers need not know about each other, including religious and political views as well as personal issues, but some folks just can't seem to keep their mouths shut. And don't forget -- a casual conversation can easily turn into office gossip, which again can easily turn around to the one who spreads it -- including yourself.

To avoid risking your professional image, here are 10 things to never share or discuss with your co-workers:

1. Salary information
What you earn is between you and Human Resources. Disclosure indicates you aren't capable of keeping a confidence.

2. Medical history
Aches and pains, your latest operation, your infertility woes or the contents of your medicine cabinet, can be serious worries to you -- and only you. To your employer, your constant medical issues make you seem like an expensive, high-risk employee.

3. Work complaints
Constant complaints about your workload, stress levels or the company will quickly make you the kind of person who never gets invited to lunch. If you don't agree with company policies and procedures, address it through official channels or move on.

4. Cost of purchases
The spirit of keeping up with the Joneses is alive and well in the workplace, but you don't want others speculating on the lifestyle you're living -- or if you're living beyond your salary bracket.

5. Intimate details
Don't share intimate details about your personal life. This is no one's business other than yours and your partner's. It also makes people uncomfortable. So keep your personal bedroom details private or people will snigger about you behind your back.

6. Politics or religion
Both faith and politics are very sensitive issues and people can be very passionate about them. You may alienate a co-worker or be viewed negatively in a way that could impact your career. Be discreet and don't force your views on others.

7. Lifestyle changes and personal problems
Breakups, divorces and baby-making plans should be shared only if there is a need to know, and then maybe only to selected people in private. Otherwise, others will speak for your capabilities, desires and limitations on availability, whether there is any truth to their assumptions or not.

8. Blogs or social networking profile
Be careful about what you say in a social networking community or in your personal blog. This may be even more damaging than what you say in person as it could show a totally different side of you. Comments online can be seen by multiple eyes. An outburst of anger when you are having a bad day ... can blow up in your face.

9. Hangovers and wild weekends
It's perfectly fine to have fun during the weekend, but don't talk about your wild adventures on Monday. That information can make you look unprofessional and unreliable.

10. Off-color or racially charged comments
You can assume your co-worker wouldn't be offended or would think something is funny, but you never know. Don't take that risk. Furthermore, even if you know for certain your colleague wouldn't mind your comment, don't talk about it at work. Others can easily overhear.

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#1 ne: 05-03-2009, 14:10:52
Five ways to get a flat stomach

Perhaps the biggest myth of the fitness industry is that you need to perform sit ups to get a flat stomach, this simply isn’t true.

Despite what you may have read in magazines or heard in the gym you can’t lose fat from specific parts of the body.
It may not be nice to hear but fat is basically lost randomly on the body, for some people they lose it on their bum first but for others it may be their legs, it’s completely random and varies from person to person.
But there is good news; if you lose enough fat from the body you will eventually lose it from the stomach as well, even if you are one of these people who are prone to putting on fat around their abdomen.
So here are five proven ways to achieve a flat stomach, by following these basic principles you should start to see fat loss results within as little as 10 days.
(1)   Nutrition
Avoid all sugar in your diet as it's the top culprit for putting on body fat.  This includes sweets, chocolate and even fruit juices since they contain a lot of fructose, a natural form of sugar.
Basically every time we eat a sugary food, it releases a hormone called insulin into the body. Insulin is a storage hormone and it tells the body to store fat whilst also preventing the burning of fat.
(2)   Cardiovascular training
Perform your cardiovascular training, such as a light jog for 40 minutes, first thing in the morning before eating any breakfast as this is the perfect time for your body to start burning fat.
After not eating for 7 hours (because you are sleeping) your muscle glycogen levels and your blood sugar levels are at their lowest so this means during your morning run, cycle or swim you start to use the fat on your body as a source of energy rather than the muscle glycogen it usually uses.
(3)   Water
The Institute of Medicine advises that ‘men consume roughly 3.0 litres (about 13 cups) of total beverages a day and women consume 2.2 litres (about 9 cups) of total beverages a day.’
This is so important for fat loss because if the body doesn’t have a sufficient supply of water, the kidneys cannot function efficiently.
At this point the surplus workload is done by the liver meaning that it can’t do its job of metabolising stored fat for energy properly resulting in less fat being burnt.
(4)   Weight training
If women weight train properly and correctly they will never have to perform a sit-up ever again, because the stomach is worked out enough during these exercises.
But weight training can also increase your metabolism so you carry on burning calories long after you have stopped exercising.  This is unlike normal cardiovascular training, like jogging, which only burns calories for the time you are training.
(5)   Supplementation
In conjunction with these four tips, you could try the supplement ‘Slinky', one of the few products that is both a fat burner and fat blocker in one.
Or, alternatively, if sugary or fatty food is unavoidable in your diet, try the supplement ‘Freedom’. 
Research reveals that this innovative product actually blocks most of the sugars, carbohydrates and starch from being absorbed. 

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#2 ne: 06-03-2009, 01:50:10
10 things not to share with your co-workers..

not just co workers, but pretty much with no one... :)


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#3 ne: 06-03-2009, 13:26:57
Five Reasons Girls Are Better Than Boys. :D

5. Girls perform better at school

Girls are more likely to achieve higher grades than boys at GCSE and A-level. Among the suggested explanations for this disparity is the tendency for girls to mature earlier than boys, and therefore to be easier to teach. Adolescence for girls usually begins at age 12, whereas boys start to mature, on average, two years later at age 14. Boys are also more prone to hyperactivity (ADD) and dyslexia, which may affect their performance in school.

4. Women live longer

UK life expectancy figures have increased dramatically over the past century (men and women born in 1901 were only expected to reach the ages of 48 and 51.6 respectively). But the gap separating the sexes still remains prominent. Figures for 2008 show life expectancy for men to be 77.2 years, while the average woman can expect to live until she is 81.5. Men are also much more likely to commit suicide: three-quarters of the suicides in 2007 were committed by men. This has been blamed on social expectations for men not to verbalise their emotions.

3. Women make better citizens

In the UK, women make up less than 6 per cent of the total prison population (2005 statistics). It has been argued that the substantial gap between the number of male and female prisoners exists because judges show greater leniency towards female offenders in order to avoid separating mothers from children. Yet the nature of the crimes committed by women—the most common are shop-lifting, fraud and drug offences—differ from those committed by men, and suggest that female offenders pose less threat to public safety.

2. Women are safer drivers

Contrary to the popular stereotype, women are in fact safer drivers than men. In 2006 an overwhelming majority, 97 per cent, of motorists convicted of dangerous driving were male. While women are more likely to make low-level mistakes, such as stalling at a junction, men are prone to taking greater and more life-threatening risks, such as drink-driving or speeding.

1. Women are more cooperative

How the different genders interact with others has been the focal point of repeated studies, and most have shown that women are less competitive and focus more on cooperation than men. In one study held in 2007 participants played "The Prisoner's Dilemma," a game where contestants must choose between the desire to be selfish and the need for compromise. (The premise of the game is that you and your partner in crime are arrested for stealing a painting, which is spattered with blood. You are held in separate cells and do not know what your partner will say. If you both stay silent and cooperate, you will both serve short jail sentences for theft. If you inform and accuse your partner of murder, you will get away scot-free. If, however, you and your partner inform on each other, you will both serve long jail-sentences.) Women consistently chose to cooperate with each other, thereby achieving higher payoffs than men.
Even in situations of stress, women appear to react in a more cooperative manner. Brain scans of 16 men and 16 women put in situations of moderate tension showed that bloodflow in women's brains increased in the limbic area, the part of the brain associated with a nurturing and friendly response. Men's bloodflow, meanwhile, increased in the area of the brain responsible for the "flight and fight" reaction.

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#4 ne: 06-03-2009, 14:16:33
I never share anything with my co workers to be honest.. hmmmmm: ..also I don't expect them to share anything with me even though they do sometimes.

Why should I?!. :S

I like this..5 reasons why girls are better than boys? :D..

They true..

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#5 ne: 06-03-2009, 17:50:56
Five Reasons Boys Are Better Than Girls

5. Men are funnier
Not only do men tell a lot more jokes than women, according to a study held in 2007, but those jokes are also more likely to be considered funny. The outcome of the year-long study showed that 71 per cent of women laugh when a man tells a joke, while only 39 per cent of men laugh at a joke told by a woman. The figures support a commonly held view that men find funny women intimidating, while women find funny men attractive.

4. Men have a higher tolerance to alcohol
One reason why men can drink more than women is their higher muscle mass. Women convert more food into fat, while men convert more into muscle. Muscle tissue contains a higher percentage of water than fat tissue, and this water acts as a dilutant to alcohol, keeping men sober for longer.

Men also naturally have more of two enzymes crucial to the breakdown of alcohol: acetaldehyde dehydrogenase and glutathione. These two enzymes are responsible for turning a toxic by-product created when alcohol is broken down into a non-toxic acid, acetate. Due to a lower level of these enzymes in females, the average woman can process less alcohol than a man in the same period of time, and will also suffer from worse hangovers.

However, whether a high alcohol tolerance is necessarily an asset is debatable: statistics show that men are three times more likely than women to be alcohol dependent.

3. Men make better dieters
It appears to be men who, when they set their minds to it, make better dieters. In 2008 neuro-scientist Dr Wang scanned the brains of 23 male and female participants who had not eaten for 17 hours. Their favourite meals were placed in front of them so that they were able to smell the food, but not touch it, and they were then asked to try to think of something else for 45 minutes. The results of the brain scan showed that men were more successful at suppressing their conscious desire to eat, while women still had cravings for food. This ability to suppress their appetite can explain how men are able to diet more successfully than women.

2. Men feel the cold less
Men tend to feel the cold less than women, despite the fact that the core body temperature of a woman is, on average, 0.4 degrees Fahrenheit higher than a man's. In winter weather, women tend to have colder hands and feet than men because, in order to maintain their warmer core temperature, they send less blood to their extremities, redirecting it instead to the most important organ, the heart.

1. Men are stronger
It is undeniable that the average man is stronger than the average woman. The higher rate of conversion of food into muscle, rather than fat, helps to explain why women are only approximately 52 per cent as strong as men in the upper body, and about 66 per cent as strong in the lower body. Males are also on average 8 per cent taller and 15 per cent heavier than females, helping to contribute to their superior physical power. Analysing men and women's tennis exposes the differences between strength in the sexes: a male serve can reach speeds of over 150 mph (240 kph), whereas the fastest female serve was recorded in 2007, at 128 mph (206 kph).

 :D :D

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#6 ne: 06-03-2009, 20:21:57
hahhahaha U nastyyy... :P
Quicker than me.. :D :D

( I was gonna post that tomorrow :D )


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#7 ne: 06-03-2009, 20:28:45
20 Things You Didn't Know About... Sleep

1 Chronic snoring can be treated by uvulopalatopharyngo plasty, a surgical procedure that tightens the tissues of the soft palate and throat. Possible side effects include changes in voice frequency.

2 Another option involves injecting the palate with a chemical to harden the soft tissue. This is called a snoroplasty, derived from the Greek word plastos, meaning molded, and somewhat lamely from the English word snore, meaning snore.

3 Baaaa'd idea: A 2002 study by Oxford University researchers concluded, brilliantly, that the traditional practice of counting sheep is an ineffective cure for insomnia. The mental activity is so boring that other problems and concerns inevitably surface.

4 Mattresses have an average life span of 8 to 10 years. They grow some nasty stuff in that time; one study links mattress bacteria to sudden infant death syndrome.

5 An adult bedbug can survive up to one year without feeding.

6 In 2004 Americans filled more than 35 million prescriptions for sleeping pills.The number of adults aged 20 to 44 taking pills to help them fall asleep has doubled in the last four years.

7 More than 100,000 car crashes in the United States each year result from drowsiness. Drivers talking on cell phones increase the rate by 6 percent, so don't call someone if you get tired.

8 Disco isn't dead, it's on the dashboard: In 2008 Volvo plans to unveil a system that will monitor a driver's eyes and head, along with the movement of the steering wheel. If a driver seems to be nodding off, interior lights will start to flash.

9 A six-year study of a million adults showed that people who get only six to seven hours of sleep a night have a lower death rate than those who get eight hours. Maybe it's those late nights watching QVC.

10 In 1964 17-year-old Randy Gardner stayed awake for 264 hours and 12 minutes, the world's record. He then slept for 15 hours—not a record, but not bad.

11 Let's sleep on it first: In a gesture of integration with the European Union, Spain has launched a campaign to eliminate the tradition of siestas, or afternoon naps.

12 Thanks in part to their afternoon naps, Spaniards sleep an average of 40 minutes less per night than other Europeans. Spain also has the highest rate of workplace accidents in the EU and the third lowest productivity rate.

13 Who knew it was that easy? A Muslim couple in India is being forced to split up after the husband uttered the word talaq, the Arabic word for divorce, three times in his sleep. According to Muslim law, the "triple talaq" is an actual divorce.

14 The idea that it is dangerous to wake a sleepwalker is a myth. Given the things sleepwalkers get up to do, like climbing roofs and fixing insanely large sandwiches, it is probably more risky not to wake them.

15 Whales and dolphins can literally fall half asleep. Their brain hemispheres alternate sleeping, so the animals can continue to surface and breathe.

16 Dreaming is connected to bursts of electrical activity that blow through the brain stem every 90 minutes during REM sleep. Over a lifetime, an average person spends more than six years dreaming, clocking more than 136,000 in all.

17 But nobody knows why we dream.

18 Hey, be glad she doesn't have a telethon: More than 5 million American children suffer from nocturnal enuresis, better known as bed-wetting. Actress Suzanne Somers used to be one of them, according to her autobiography.

19 Somniphobia is the fear of sleep.

20 So far, there are no known celebrity somniphobes.

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#8 ne: 07-03-2009, 21:49:55
20 Things You Didn't Know About... Snow

1  Snow is a mineral, just like diamonds and salt.

2   Lies your teacher told you: Most snowflakes don’t look like the lacy decorations that kids cut from folded paper. Flakes are generally bunches of those perfectly symmetrical crystals stuck together.

3   No two alike? More lies! Many crystals are almost identical in their early stages of growth, and some of the fully formed ones are pretty darned similar.

4  A snow crystal can be 50 times as wide as it is thick, so even though crystals can be lab grown to more than two inches across, they’re generally far thinner than a piece of paper

5  At the center of almost every snow crystal is a tiny mote of dust, which can be anything from volcanic ash to a particle from outer space.

6  As the crystal grows around that speck, its shape is altered by humidity, temperature, and wind; the history of a flake’s descent to Earth is recorded in its intricate design.

7  Freshly fallen snow is typically 90 to 95 percent air, which is what makes it such a good thermal insulator.

8   Thundersnow—a blizzard with visible lightning—is rare. But some scientists hypothesize that all lightning is born of snow that’s just out of sight: Ice crystals in clouds collide and generate electricity.

9  According to Guinness World Records, the largest snowflake ever recorded was a 15-incher that besieged Fort Keogh, Montana, in 1887.

10  There are occasional reports of red, yellow, or black snow falling from the sky, probably due to pollen, windblown dust, or ash and soot.

11  Don’t eat the red snow, either: “Watermelon snow,” ruddy-tinted drifts that smell like fresh watermelon, gets its color from a species of pigmented algae that grows in ice. The snow tastes great, but eating it will give you the runs.

12  Due to our increasing passion for skiing and snowmobiling, avalanche fatalities in the United States have risen sharply in the last 50 years. About 270 people have died that way in the past decade, roughly a fifth of them in Colorado.

13  No need to whisper: Shouting, yodeling, and most other loud sounds cannot trigger an avalanche.

14  The whitest place in the United States is Valdez, Alaska—near the site of the infamous oil spill—which receives 326 inches of snow a year, on average.

15  But it doesn’t snow very much at the poles. Most blizzards there are made up of old snow that is blowing around.

16   In Antarctica, the hard, flat snow reflects sound waves with incredible efficiency. Some researchers say they have heard human voices a mile away.

17  Don’t buy the urban legend that Inuit cultures have hundreds of words for snow. Many linguists say there are so many Inuit dialects and so many ways to parse a word that it’s like counting how many words Europeans have for love.

18  “Snowflake” Bentley took the first photographs of snow crystals in 1885 by attaching a bellows camera to a microscope and manipulating his frozen subjects with a severed turkey wing. After capturing over 5,000 stunning crystals, he died of pneumonia.

19  Too much snow can drive a person crazy. Pibloktoq, a little-understood hysteria seen in people living in the Arctic, can cause a wide range of symptoms, including echolalia (senseless repetition of overheard words) and running around naked in the snow.

20  The big freeze: According to the “snowball Earth” theory, roughly 600 million years ago our planet was entirely covered in snow and ice. Others argue that no complex life could have survived that wintry a wonderland. Except maybe Bing Crosby.

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#9 ne: 09-03-2009, 12:27:06
10 reasons breakfast is a MUST

Is it an old wives' tale, or is breakfast really the most important meal of the day? Perhaps your mother always made you eat hot lumpy cereal in the morning, so as soon as you escaped her clutches, you developed the coffee and cigarette habit in college, and ever since then breakfast was a bagel... at lunchtime.

You’ve realised your adolescence ended (about 10 years ago!) and now it’s time for a change. You’ve stopped that smoking thing... it was smelly and made your teeth yellow anyway. But your trousers are too tight, you can’t climb a set of stairs without huffing and puffing and you feel much older than your years.

Back to breakfast... yes it’s true, breakfast can make or break a diet, because breakfast helps set the tone for the rest of the day. If you’re one of those people who think skipping breakfast is a good way to lose weight... think again. Here are the top reasons why you should definitely eat breakfast, every day:

1. Break the fast. Ever think of what "breakfast" means? Your body responds to not eating for hours and hours by slowing down its metabolic rate. By eating breakfast, you wake up your metabolism and get your engine humming, burning those calories you need to burn to lose weight.

2. Eat more, weigh less. Researchers have repeatedly shown that people who eat breakfast have a better chance of losing weight, and keeping it off. When you skip meals, you’re so hungry by lunchtime you eat the entire cow! Research carried out at Queen Margaret University, Edinburgh has shown that eating breakfast cereal in the morning helps aid weight loss.

3. Are you interested in doing better at work and school? Don’t be a bed head... breakfast helps wake you up. Studies show that people who eat breakfast are more alert and do better on tests than people who skip breakfast. Conversely, a hungry child can be apathetic, disinterested, and irritable when confronted with difficult tasks. Breakfast is the key." No doubt adults need breakfast as much as kids do.

4. Breakfast is your chance to eat the foods you may not eat the rest of the day. You can have whole-grain cereal and berries with non-fat milk - here is your fibre, folic acid and calcium in one easy-to-grab bowl. Low-carbers need to go very easy on grains, so opt for the highest-fibre brand you can find. However, why not indulge instead in the typical eggs and bacon breakfast most other eating plans frown upon?

5. Skipping breakfast makes you grouchy. Studies show that people who eat breakfast tend to be in better moods (when I’m hungry - watch out!). Breakfast gets you started on the right track for the day. If you start out with a healthy breakfast, then you set the mood for lunch. You're more likely to choose something reasonable for lunch if you’ve paid some attention to your breakfast choices.

6. Cancel the Danish or sugared donut first thing in the morning - they cause a blood sugar dip a couple of hours later. You’ll be desperate for something to perk you up, and are more likely to grab another high-sugar refined carb, for a quick sugar rush.

7. Breakfast makes your machine run better. Get yourself on a schedule with a healthy breakfast, and you’re ready to take on the world.

8. If you're a parent, set a good example. By skipping breakfast, your kids will think it’s not important. Breakfast doesn't have to be a big affair, but don’t wimp out... make it a habit, and your kids will be way ahead of the game too.

9. Don’t eat dessert for breakfast. If you think a cereal bar with 30 grams of sugar is a breakfast item, then think again. Some cereal bars contain nearly as much sugar and fat as a regular chocolate bar.

10. One more word about labels... if it says, "Nutritious," it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s healthy. Cereal manufacturers are experts in marketing, using words that send a message of health, but unless you read the labels, eat at your own risk. Kids’ cereals often have more sugar than sweets. Protect your kids from getting hooked on these cereals... they’ll get used to all the sugar, and will want only pre-sweetened cereals.

Whatever your diet you follow... breakfast is one meal you don’t want to miss.

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#10 ne: 11-03-2009, 21:53:51
5 Foods You Should Eat Every Day

The new trend among the weight conscious? Eating more. Don't focus on consuming less of the "bad" foods — aim to incorporate more of the good foods into your diet. Not only will you feel less deprived, but you'll also end up being too full to crave the junk. Try these five nutritional superstars for a result that's even greater than the sum of its wholesome parts:

1. Spinach
For $1.50, the price of a large bag of spinach at most grocery stores, you can reduce your risk of developing osteoporosis, lower your cholesterol, and raise your I.Q. Spinach is an excellent bone-builder, containing vitamin K, calcium, and magnesium. It's also high in flavonoids, plant molecules that act as antioxidants, which have been shown to prevent breast, stomach, skin, and ovarian cancer. Spinach is a great source of vitamin A and vitamin C, which not only keep you from getting sick in the winter, but also de-clog your arteries and reduce heart disease.

Spinach contains antioxidants that neutralize free radicals in the brain, thereby preventing the effects of aging on mental activity. Scientific studies have demonstrated that both animals and people who eat a few servings of spinach per day improve their learning capacities and motor skills.

Serving ideas: Sauté spinach with olive oil, pine nuts, and raisins — the olive oil will help you to better absorb its nutrients. Don't love the flavor so much? Try these spinach brownies from Jessica Seinfeld's Deceptively Delicious cookbook — you won't taste a thing.

2. Eggs
In the Snackwell-crazed '90s, dieters feared eggs because of their fat and cholesterol content and suffered through millions of tasteless egg-white omelets. But research has shown little, if any, connection between dietary cholesterol and blood cholesterol, and the humble egg is finally being recognized for the remarkably complete set of nutrients it provides. It makes sense: Something that contains the ingredients for an entire life can give you the fuel you need to get through the morning.

Eggs are a great source of protein, containing all eight amino acids (if you eat the whole thing). As any healthy dieter knows, protein is essential for staying full and having energy.

Serving ideas: For breakfast on the go, roll up a veggie omelet in a whole-wheat wrap. Or, update the classic egg salad by chopping yours up with Italian tuna, black olives, and some olive oil and vinegar.

3. Blueberries
A Tufts University study found blueberries were the number one source of antioxidants among 60 fruits and vegetables analyzed. Blueberries contain antioxidants that can (get ready): prevent ulcers, cataracts, and glaucoma; decrease risks of heart disease and various types of cancer; and lower cholesterol. They can also reduce aging of the brain, keeping your memory sharp and diminishing the effects of dementia and Alzheimer's disease.

Serving ideas: Throw some frozen ones in the blender with honey or agave syrup for a granita-like treat. Or, serve in a salad with spinach, sliced almonds, and balsamic vinaigrette for a light and gourmet lunch.

4. Apples
Eating an apple a day can keep all kinds of doctors away, from physicians to dentists. Apples contain both insoluble and soluble fiber, which not only make them filling, but also work double time to reduce cholesterol. Some doctors even recommend drinking apple juice after eating a fatty meal to reduce the food's negative effects on your body.

Apples have been proven to reduce the risk of heart disease. And if that's not enough to make you bite into a Fuji or McIntosh, consider this: Chewing apples stimulates saliva, which scrubs stains off your teeth and freshens breath instantly.

Serving ideas: Spread peanut butter on sliced apples for a yummy taste of childhood. Or, dice them up in your oatmeal before cooking and sprinkle with cinnamon for an apple pie-flavored breakfast.

5. Winter Squash
One cup of winter squash provides 170 percent of your daily requirement of vitamin A, a nutrient necessary for night vision that's hard to find in other foods. Squash's bright orange color comes from a high dose of carotenoids, antioxidants that prevent eye degeneration due to aging and filter out carcinogenic light rays. Makes you think of jack-o'-lanterns in a new "light," doesn't it?

Roast the seeds alongside the flesh and you'll reap a host of other benefits. Winter squash seeds contain a significant amount of L-tryptophan, which can help to prevent depression. They're also a rich source of magnesium, a mineral Americans don't consume nearly enough that's vital to almost every bodily function. Eating your daily dose of magnesium will lower your risks for heart disease, abdominal obesity, and diabetes.

Serving ideas: Mix canned or pureed squash with cinnamon and the sweetener of your choice for a decadent and surprisingly low-cal treat reminiscent of Thanksgiving candied yams. One-half cup of pureed pumpkin has 40 calories, in contrast with yam's 180 (and that's if you don't add butter or marshmallows). Or, roll the seeds in cinnamon and sugar, crunchy sea salt, or curry powder, then roast them in the oven. And don't limit yourself to pumpkin — delicata and kabocha squash seeds are equally nutritious, with their own unique, nutty flavors.

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#11 ne: 12-03-2009, 01:41:51
fruits and vegetables are really good for a good diet. poultry and dairy prodcuts are needed as well, but as long as you exercise or work out you be okay..

even playing a soccer, or a bastkeball game helps a lot towards your physical fitness.

for me i can eat almost anything, and still be good, cuz i exercize daily, 1 hour, but i still don't eat just about anything i see in front of me.

fish, chicken is good, junk food, like fast food, soda, chips,etc etc are no good..
alcohol and tabacco fill mess you up. a lil alcohol every now and then might be okay.


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#12 ne: 12-03-2009, 11:03:33
Nine little things all woman should keep secret from men

“What the eye doesn’t see, the heart doesn’t grieve over”. So goes the old proverb. And we agree. There’s absolutely no harm in keeping a FEW things back from your loved one. He doesn’t need, or want, to know chapter and verse about your bowels, fungal infections or spectacular faux pas. We want him to think of you as being fragrant, flawless and a fabulous catch! Let’s draw a veil over our insignificant shortcomings, shall we? Here are the worst offenders you want to keep to yourself.

1. You don’t exercise.
Keep it a secret that you maintain your sylph-like figure by cutting down to nothing but carrots before a big date (this is a non-too subtle dig at Penny who occasionally has what she calls her ‘carrot’ days when this is virtually all that passes her lips!). Guys like to think that we are healthy, can run for a bus without fainting and enjoy the odd bracing walk. Nobody likes a couch potato.

2. You are useless with money.
Even if your debts are mounting and the bailiffs are at your door, don’t let on. A man will envisage big problems i.e. he’ll have to bail you out/finance your lavish lifestyle. Try to give the illusion you can manage your own income and outgoings. Start to economise sharpish and buy an alphabetical folder for bills so you can at least see what you have to pay out!

3. You diet constantly.
Telling men all about the fluctuations in your weight smacks of a lack of self-confidence, which is not an endearing quality. It is also deeply boring. Men are irrevocably disinterested in calories. It’s the equivalent of them giving you a blow-by-blow account of the FA cup final. And, they might be frightened that you will start them on a dull lettuce leaf diet too.

4. Your previous relationships.
A boyfriend is not to be confused with a father confessor! No man alive wants to hear you stifling a sob and sniffing ‘I came here with Kevin’. Draw a discrete veil over most of your past loves; knock a zero off the total, that kind of thing. They know you are not as pure as the driven snow (we’re guessing) but they don’t want their face rubbed in it.

5. Your chocoholism.
One bar a day is endearing (Oh bless - she’s got to have her chocolate fix…). On the other hand, seven king-size bars per day, one after the other sitting at your desk is NOT (another even less subtle dig at Penny who has a penchant for hoovering up those mini bags of sweets you often find in kids’ party bags). You’ll come over as excessive, out-of-control - and not in a good way.

6. Your ditziest remarks.
Guys like a girl with a brain. Don’t ask “Is East Berlin near West Berlin?” as I (Sarah, one half of this writing duo) once did. Or say, “So is Japan in Europe?” as I also did (Come on! It’s all the same land mass). Show interest if the conversation gets beyond you - Sub Prime Mortgage Crisis anyone? Ask interested questions and the guys will LOVE explaining it all. Their chests will swell with pride - they are so well-read and clever. Let them, don’t spoil it.

7. Your beauty routine.
What beauty routine? You just splash on a bit of soap and water, a light application of moisturiser, some mascara and you’re done! Never mind the heel-grater, the pumice stones, the cuticle softening cream, the anti-fungal nail varnish, the waxings, the shaving, the endless exfoliating, moisturising, plucking. They don’t need to know this - until MUCH later. You are a natural beauty. Do all of this preparation work in your own time. Otherwise he will be driven crazy waiting for you to get out of the bathroom.

8. Your vital statistics.

He WILL tell his friends, especially cup size. Plus, we all seem to have an image of the standard ideal woman as coming in size 36-24-36. That was in the 1950s! Everyone was petite then or held in by corsets! Just say you don’t know. But if he wants to tell YOU about any of his vital statistics, let him go ahead….(yikes!)

9. Your crush on his friend.
Men have their insecurities too. Just because we are dating someone does not mean that we can’t appreciate another man’s hunky good looks, wit and charm. It is one thing for his mates to think you are great. But, men do not like you to extol their friends’ virtues too enthusiastically. You wouldn’t like it either if he started to do this about your friends would you? Keep your thoughts to yourself.

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#13 ne: 13-03-2009, 07:33:59
"If love and sex are such natural phenomenons, then how came there are so many books on how to" ?

What is forgiven is usually well remembered.

A man must learn to forgive himself.

It is worse than a crime: it is a mistake.

To gain that which is worth having, it may be necessary to lose everything else.

Any boy can get a girl, it takes a man to keep one.

Two monologues do not make a dialogue.

Nature gave us one tongue and two ears so we could hear twice as much as we speak.

The big difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for money usually costs a lot less.

No matter what age you are, or what your circumstances might be, you are special, and you still have something unique to offer. Your life, because of who you are, has meaning.

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.

A divorce is like an amputation; you survive, but there's less of you.

True love is like ghosts, which everybody talks about and few have seen.

Pleasure of love lasts but a moment, Pain of love lasts a lifetime.

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#14 ne: 13-03-2009, 13:24:05

Any boy can get a girl, it takes a man to keep one.

 ;) :) :)

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#15 ne: 15-03-2009, 16:25:13
11 Chat Up Lines That Work

Your eyes connect across the crowded room/dancefloor/office. That was the easy bit. But now guys - do you want some advice on how to get to know her? Whatever you say, the key point to remember is that women judge a great deal by eye contact and hate a shifty look. Confident delivery is half the battle. Do not stare at her figure even if it’s great.

1. Compliments
Keep them brief, and do not focus on her body or you will look desperate. 'You have nice earrings' will often do the job. ‘That’s a great top’ really means those are great boobs, and women know this.

2. Something off-the-wall outrageous!
‘Tell me, do you know how to change a wheel?’ If done with a cheeky smile this could just work. At least she will laugh or be intrigued.

3. A generous no-strings attached invitation.
‘Would you like a glass of champagne – we have a bottle open which we won’t get through.’ This shows you are classy (champers) and generous – win-win.

4. Literature
‘If you like that book you should try the second one in the trilogy.’ Only do this if you genuinely know the author – otherwise you will get caught out. If you haven’t read the book, you can always open with – ‘I was thinking about getting that book – what do you think of it?’ Ask an OPEN question – not one she can give a Yes/No answer to.

5. Family resemblances
‘Sorry, I had to do a double-take. You remind me so much of my beautiful sister Jane.’ If you don’t have a sister – use a friend’s name, but in case she ever meets the real Jane – make sure they do look somewhat alike. This is corny but sweet.

6. Help!
‘I don’t know you, but, as a woman, would you mind telling me if you would want this present that I have just bought for my mum?’ Your helpless male act will bring out the big softie in her. Who could resist rescuing you when you’re trying to do something nice for your Mum?

7. Fancy that!
‘What a coincidence. Didn’t I see you at the bus stop outside the cinema last week? You had a fantastic mohair coat which really looked unusual.’ Even if it wasn’t her, she will like the compliment and you will have to spend some time figuring out if it was her i.e. which film, which cinema etc… This gives you time for a few follow-up gambits.

8. Being the gent.
‘That case looks heavy. Can I help you take it off the carousel?’ These old-school manners always go down well, no matter how liberated the woman is. Who’s going to object to a bit of genuine courtesy?

9. On the train.
‘Do you know what time we get into Manchester?’….factual, unthreatening. But get in quick with a follow-up remark, a joke about the catering, the delightfully helpful staff or Network Rail’s ever-present engineering works, always timed to perfection.

10. In the wine bar.
‘They do a great Frascati/Sauvignon Blanc here, I’m going to get a glass – can I get you one while I am at it?’ A variation on ‘Can I buy you a drink?’ but no harm in that.

11. In the street/bus stop/pub.
‘I am looking for a really good Italian restaurant round here, any ideas?’ Again, unthreatening. She will probably give directions or be going that way herself, in which case…

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#16 ne: 19-03-2009, 21:11:55
Are you stressed?

Let’s face it, modern day life is stressful, but what can we do about it?  We reveal some top tips for coping under pressure.

It’s Monday morning and you’re late into the office, your inbox contains 576 unread emails and the phone is ringing off the hook; you feel your heart rate rising.  Sound familiar?

For many people stress is an everyday occurrence, and something they simply have to deal with to get through the working week.

What is stress?

Stress is a term used to describe the feeling created by an emotional or physical threat, whether real or imagined. 
The word ‘stress’ has only been in use since the 1930s after endocrinologist Hans Selye conducted research on the physiological responses of laboratory animals.  He later expanded his theories to humans and the concept of stress became more widely acknowledged.

Being stressed sends your body into a state of alarm and increased adrenaline production, but if dealt with correctly, stress can be alleviated without mental or physical harm.

How can I tell if I’m stressed?

Stress often manifests itself both physically and emotionally with symptoms including headaches, accelerated heart rate, exhaustion, irritability, insomnia, indigestion, loss of concentration and sensitivity to criticism.

It is important to acknowledge and deal with these symptoms, otherwise stress can become the cause of more serious mental and physical problems such as depression and a depleted immune system.

The most common causes of stress

The second biggest occupational health problem in the UK is stress caused by work.  Other causes include money problems, bereavement, moving house, relationship troubles and family issues.

Having unrealistic deadlines, an unsupportive manager, poor working conditions, being in the wrong job and feeling undervalued are some factors which may contribute to work-related stress.

The current economic climate is also causing added stress at work with fears of redundancy running high.  Many are compromising their breaks and staying after hours in a bid to impress their bosses, but are unaware that this could have a detrimental effect on their health and wellbeing in the long run.
How to cope with stress

Tackling work-related stress can be tricky as most people don’t want to appear as if they can’t cope with their job, but there are some methods to deal with this difficult situation.
Try talking to someone that you know well and trust outside of work; sometimes talking about your troubles can help ease the stress they are causing.  Also, be sure to discuss any difficulties you’re having at work with your boss or supervisor, and if necessary, your personnel department.

If counselling support is available at your place of work then be sure to take advantage of this, too.

Looking after your body can also help ease the symptoms of stress, so try to kick, or at least cut down, any addictions you may have to smoking or drugs.  Try to take exercise where possible to help focus your mind and work off excess adrenaline caused by stress.

Maintaining a healthy diet can also help balance your mood, so avoid caffeine and alcohol where possible as these can heighten the effects on tension and anxiety.

You could also try alternative and complimentary therapies such as yoga, meditation, acupuncture, massage and aromatherapy.

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#17 ne: 21-03-2009, 15:39:54
Why men lie
By Matthew Sakey

Men lie. Women lie as well, but it doesn't seem like they do it nearly as often. And while it's easy to dismiss dishonesty of any kind as wrong, sometimes there are extenuating circumstances that, while not necessarily excusing the deception, at least put it into some context. Remember, though, that there are at least as many reasons that men lie as there are men, and like those men, some reasons are good, and some are not so good. Take a look at a few of the more common reasons for deception:

1. He didn't want to hurt you

Lying to protect someone's feelings is probably the closest thing to a "good lie" there is, with the exception of lying to protect national security. Men have been known to modify truths if those truths would hurt someone they care about, and in some cases, the victim of the lie can appreciate it as a kindness. "I will lie to spare her feelings if I can," says Marcus, 29. "In a way, I don't even consider it dishonest... it's a matter of doing something kind versus doing something right. That's a difficult choice."

2. He didn't want to hurt himself

Ah, the classic "the truth would have embarrassed me" argument. Falling into the "nice try" category of excuses, a lie that protects the liar's feelings is a lot worse than one that protects yours. "I can't think of a single reason to lie just to spare my own feelings," says Tony, 38. "I suppose I've done it occasionally, but protecting yourself at the expense of someone else is wrong."

3. He said what he thought you wanted to hear

Men are not the most astute readers of feminine desires, and sometimes they will tell a fib because they believe that you'd rather hear an untruth than something potentially hurtful. "I have occasionally defused a fight by saying something she wants to hear, even if it's untrue," says Bryan, 30. "It's not something I defend, just something that seems right at the time."

4. Some things are best left unsaid

Occasionally, men will lie to protect a secret that is either not your business, would cause trouble if revealed, or both. The old "cover-up" comes in two types: a lie to conceal some wrongdoing, like cheating, and a lie to conceal something else, like the fact that he, too, used to be a woman. "Even close couples occasionally have secrets," says Peter, 29. "The fact is, not everything is everyone's business. Some sleeping dogs should be left alone."

5. He's an idiot

Sometimes there is no excuse. Sometimes men lie, for whatever reason, and there's just no defence. Frustratingly, such men are often adept at concealing themselves, so you must trust your heart and instincts when you sense deception. If a man is habitually dishonest, he's probably not worth your time.

Cicero once said, "So great is the power of honesty that we esteem it even in an enemy." While lies can spare feelings, offset trouble and protect secrets, the fact is that honesty is an unassailable fortress, even if the truth sometimes hurts. You must take deceptions as you take your men: on a case-by-case basis. When you've been lied to, trust is in doubt forever, but can also be regained with a lot of hard work on both sides. Use your judgement, and above all, be honest with yourself.

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#18 ne: 27-03-2009, 18:05:41
18 Common Phrases to Avoid in Conversation By Kristyn Kusek Lewis
Some things should never be said―like these phrases. Here, what to say instead.

What Not to Say About Someone's Appearance

Don’t say: “You look tired.”
Why: It implies she doesn’t look good.
Instead say: “Is everything OK?” We often blurt the “tired” comment when we get the sense that the other person feels out of sorts. So just ask.

Don’t say: “Wow, you’ve lost a ton of weight!”
Why: To a newly trim person, it might give the impression that she used to look unattractive.
Instead say: “You look fantastic.” And leave it at that. If you’re curious about how she got so svelte, add, “What’s your secret?”

Don’t say: “You look good for your age.”
Why: Anything with a caveat like this is rude. It's saying, "You look great―compared with other old people. It's amazing you have all your own teeth."
Instead say: “You look great.”

Don’t say: “I could never wear that.”
Why: It can be misunderstood as a criticism. (“I could never wear that because it’s so ugly.”)
Instead say: “You look so good in skinny jeans.” If you slip, say something like “I could never wear that…because I wasn’t blessed with your long legs.”

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#19 ne: 28-03-2009, 14:43:13
Why men lie
By Matthew Sakey

Men lie. Women lie as well, but it doesn't seem like they do it nearly as often. And while it's easy to dismiss dishonesty of any kind as wrong, sometimes there are extenuating circumstances that, while not necessarily excusing the deception, at least put it into some context. Remember, though, that there are at least as many reasons that men lie as there are men, and like those men, some reasons are good, and some are not so good. Take a look at a few of the more common reasons for deception:

1. He didn't want to hurt you

Lying to protect someone's feelings is probably the closest thing to a "good lie" there is, with the exception of lying to protect national security. Men have been known to modify truths if those truths would hurt someone they care about, and in some cases, the victim of the lie can appreciate it as a kindness. "I will lie to spare her feelings if I can," says Marcus, 29. "In a way, I don't even consider it dishonest... it's a matter of doing something kind versus doing something right. That's a difficult choice."

2. He didn't want to hurt himself

Ah, the classic "the truth would have embarrassed me" argument. Falling into the "nice try" category of excuses, a lie that protects the liar's feelings is a lot worse than one that protects yours. "I can't think of a single reason to lie just to spare my own feelings," says Tony, 38. "I suppose I've done it occasionally, but protecting yourself at the expense of someone else is wrong."

3. He said what he thought you wanted to hear

Men are not the most astute readers of feminine desires, and sometimes they will tell a fib because they believe that you'd rather hear an untruth than something potentially hurtful. "I have occasionally defused a fight by saying something she wants to hear, even if it's untrue," says Bryan, 30. "It's not something I defend, just something that seems right at the time."

4. Some things are best left unsaid

Occasionally, men will lie to protect a secret that is either not your business, would cause trouble if revealed, or both. The old "cover-up" comes in two types: a lie to conceal some wrongdoing, like cheating, and a lie to conceal something else, like the fact that he, too, used to be a woman. "Even close couples occasionally have secrets," says Peter, 29. "The fact is, not everything is everyone's business. Some sleeping dogs should be left alone."

5. He's an idiot

Sometimes there is no excuse. Sometimes men lie, for whatever reason, and there's just no defence. Frustratingly, such men are often adept at concealing themselves, so you must trust your heart and instincts when you sense deception. If a man is habitually dishonest, he's probably not worth your time.

Cicero once said, "So great is the power of honesty that we esteem it even in an enemy." While lies can spare feelings, offset trouble and protect secrets, the fact is that honesty is an unassailable fortress, even if the truth sometimes hurts. You must take deceptions as you take your men: on a case-by-case basis. When you've been lied to, trust is in doubt forever, but can also be regained with a lot of hard work on both sides. Use your judgement, and above all, be honest with yourself.

Are feminine values, now America's values??

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#20 ne: 07-04-2009, 16:34:08
Top 10 ways to look after your teeth

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, or so the saying goes, but a recent study by Simplyhealth has revealed that 3 out of 4 women believe that their career will suffer as a result of having bad teeth.

Over half of those questioned even claimed that they wouldn't take a colleague to a meeting if they had bad teeth and 1 in 5 said that an unattractive smile or bad breath would stop them from hiring someone.

Visit your dentist regularly
Visit your dentist regularly - Dr Qureshi says: “You need to go and see your dentist and hygienist every six months. Classically people would go for a routine check for gum disease and tooth decay and you may think you don’t need to bother, but these days your dentist is looking for many more problems, such as erosion, and can even spot signs of serious health problems.”

Avoid acidic drinks
Avoid acidic drinks - Many people think they are taking the healthy option when they drink a smoothie or fruit juice, but Dr Qureshi points out that this isn’t the best choice for your teeth. He says: “Smoothies, natural juices, cordial, concentrates and diet drinks are very acidic and erode the enamel on your teeth, which is why your teeth feel sticky after you drink them.” The answer? Drink water.

Prevent night-time grinding
Prevent night-time grinding - Dr Qureshi says: “You can’t wear your teeth down by eating as our diet today is so soft. If people come to me with worn down teeth then it’s because they grind them in their sleep. Go and see your dentist and if this is a problem for you they can give you various types of mouth guard that will solve the problem.”

Clean your teeth properly
Clean your teeth properly - Brushing and flossing is essential, but so is knowing how to do it correctly, says Dr Qureshi. “Next time you visit your hygienist make sure they show you how to take proper care of your teeth. Flossing in particular takes practice but once you get the hang of it, it won’t take you any time at all. You should also find a mouthwash with an active ingredient that will kill bacteria.

Use an electric toothbrush
Use an electric toothbrush - Once again, these are great as long as you know how to use them. Your dentist can show you the right technique. Dr Qureshi says: “If you don’t get it right then electric toothbrushes are little better than regular brushes. Though I prefer vibrating ones to the rotating ones.

Don't Smoke
Don’t smoke - There are few worse things for your teeth than smoking, says Dr Qureshi. “There are myriad reasons to stop smoking, obviously, but there is so much evidence to say that smoking exacerbates gum disease. I’ve seen it so many times myself. Smoking really makes it more difficult to look after your teeth, not to mention the social disadvantages such as bad breath and yellowing teeth.

Don’t drink too much tea
Don’t drink too much tea - Once again the healthy option isn’t always the best for your teeth, says Dr Qureshi. “I see a lot of people who lead a healthy lifestyle but have stained teeth. That’s because most herbal teas, though they won’t damage your teeth, are black and will stain them. Just look in your cup after a drink. Red wine and coffee can have a similar effect.”

Listen to your body
Listen to your body - Sometimes your dentist is just as likely as your doctor to spot the cause of problems such as neck, shoulder or head pain. Dr Qureshi says: “Most people would never think these problems had anything to do with their teeth, but, for example, neck pain could be down to clenching or grinding of teeth.”

Work on your smile
Work on your smile - Dr Qureshi believes that being happy with your smile can improve your social life, job prospects and boost your self-esteem. “You can tell a lot about a person just by looking at their smile and on all these makeover programmes on television the smile is the icing on the cake. It’s so important that you visit your dentist regularly and do all you can to keep them healthy.”

Don’t bother with whitening kits
Don’t bother with whitening kits - Dr Qureshi acknowledges the fact that not everyone can afford to have an expensive tooth whitening treatment, but stresses that kits sold in pharmacists and shops aren’t worth the cash. “Whitening kits just don’t do anything and if you want your teeth whitened you need to do it properly. Start by talking to your dentist to find out what the options are."

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#21 ne: 02-06-2009, 08:16:29
By Craig Playstead

10 things you should never say to a man!

For years we've all heard the things men shouldn't say to women, such as "Yeah, those jeans do make you look a little chunky," and "Why didn't you tell me you had a hot friend."
We've been doing our best to behave, but it's time you knew there are a few things that won't score you any points with the man in your life. For the most part, we're an open book, but there are a few things that make us cringe.
Here's a look at 10 things women say that drive men nuts!

1) "That looks cute."

For the most part, men hate cute. We don't want to hear about it, we don't want to see it, and we sure as hell don't want to be it. If we come down stairs after getting dressed and you tell us we look cute, there's a 100 per cent chance we're changing. We're supposed to be your protector, your rock, and cute does not fit into that picture.
2) "We need to talk."

These four words shut off a man's brain faster than long division. When men hear you say that they immediately go into flight mode. And anything they can do to get out of this conversation—and better yet, your flat—they will. There are plenty of other ways to approach a delicate conversation, and getting us in a place where we feel comfortable is a good start.
3) "It's just a game."

Actually, it's not just a game. Sports are a major part of our lives and the outcome has as much to do with our mood as just about anything else. Is it fair? No. Is it right? No. Is it immature? Maybe. But it's life. Sometimes we just care too much. We understand that it doesn't make sense, but you should be happy that we're that passionate about something. Telling us that "it's just a game" is like us telling you that Oprah's just a talk show host.

4) "Nothing's wrong."

Please don't tell us nothing's wrong. The look on your face could make the toughest guy on the planet weep like a primary school girl and your arms are crossed so tight you might explode. We're not mind readers; tell us what's going on. And don't make us guess because—believe me—you won't like what we come up with.
5) "I sound like my mum."

The mere fact that you might turn into your mum someday scares the hell out of us. Don't say it, even in jest—it's not funny. We actually believe (and pray) that the saying "every woman ends up looking like their mother" is an old wives' tale. If we didn't, no one would ever get married.

6) "I just want to be friends."

No you don't. You just want us to stop calling you. This is a lot like pulling off a plaster. Do it quick—don't prolong the agony. Most of us take "I just want to be friends" as "There's still a chance," so if there isn't just make it a clean break and move on.  Everyone will be much better because of it.

7) "Size doesn't matter."

Don't lie to us. We know it does, and we're doing our best to make up for it in other ways. It's best just to not say anything at all.
8) "What are you wearing?"

We're wearing whatever's clean or whatever you tell us to. We don't plan out our wardrobe days in advance, but we do actually try and look presentable. It may not work a lot of the time, but we do give it a shot. Giving us direction is completely encouraged though, so go ahead and suggest … nicely.
9) "Do you think she's pretty?"

Of course we do, our standards are much lower than yours. But just because we check her out doesn't mean we think any less of you. We try to be as discreet as possible, but for the most part, we can't help it. It's in our DNA. When an attractive woman walks by, it's best to just pretend nothing happened.

10) "Which outfit do you like better?"

I'm going to be honest here—90 per cent of the guys out there are not going to tell you which outfit they like better: they're going to try to * the one you like better and not get into a holy war when the babysitter is due any minute. To us, you always look good. Getting a couple of cocktails and spending as much time as we can without the kids is our ultimate goal for a rare night out.

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#22 ne: 02-06-2009, 08:23:02
By Jessica Murphy

10 things you should never say to a woman!

Men, there are some things that should just not be said to us girls. 'What did you do to your hair?' and 'Relax' being just two of them. Here we give you our top ten phrases to avoid to stop all hell breaking loose.
Madame, that is by far the ugliest nose I have ever seen, and I compliment you on it — it suits you! — Peter Sellers, "The Pink Panther". It's true: Some comments are better left unsaid.
But as a sophisticated man of the 21st century, you already know this. You know you're not supposed to comment on your girlfriend's weight, or tell her that her friends are hot. And you know she probably feels the same way you do about the phrase, "Can we still be friends?"
Additionally, you've found that honesty, while valued in most situations, can sometimes offend. What you say to defuse tension in an argument often stokes the fire. We understand that the female psyche can be complicated, and we're here to demystify what may seem like strategically placed trapdoors.

Here are 10 things most women don't want to hear:
1) "What did you do to your hair?"

Unless we've cut our own hair — this is not common — someone else did something to our hair. It wasn't us. And most likely we've gone to a lot of trouble and expense for it. "I like your new haircut" is infinitely better, and shows you're paying attention. It's also far superior to the generic "You look different," which tells us you're as clueless as ever.

2) "They both look the same to me."

We understand you care a lot less than we do about the outfits or the registry dishware we're asking you to compare. But they can't possibly look exactly the same, can they? Give us something. Anything. Mentally roll the dice and * one, so we don't worry about your vision — or worse, that you don't care.
3) "Relax."

A kissing cousin to "Don't get so worked up," this generally creates the exact opposite effect you're shooting for. When you say "Relax," what we hear is that you think that we're being irrational over nothing, and this makes us do anything but relax.
4) "I've got it all under control."

Ha! Famous last words. Refrain from using them if you don't want us to take fiendish delight in your getting lost because you won't stop for directions (if we're late, there will be fiendish fuming), or because you're missing a piece to your flat-screen television because you said you didn't need to read the assembly instructions.

5) "You're not one of those feminists, are you?"

Yikes. Chivalry may be nearly dead, but saying this will drive the last spear through its heart. Feminist or not, a woman is likely to be offended by the question. Just be yourself. Be kind, open the door, offer to pay, and go from there. We can choose to accept or share in your generosity.
6) "When are you due?"

Take one second to imagine a woman turning to you and responding, "I'm not pregnant," or "I had the baby six months ago," and you'll understand why you should eradicate this question from your vocabulary. In one nanosecond, innocent — even considerate — curiosity can turn to deadly, if unintentional, offense. And there's just no way to recover from this one.
7) "You're being emotional."

In the heat of the moment this may be true. But unless you want your partner to become more emotional or get angry, you're better off keeping this observation and its off-limits follow-up question — "Is  it that time of month?" — to yourself.

8) "You're acting just like your mother/my mother/my ex-girlfriend."

All three are problematic. An ex should be mentioned sparingly, and never in comparison. Why would we want to remind you of a person you broke up with? And come to mention it, why are you thinking about her? You see the slippery slope. Conjuring an image of our mother or your mother can be equally grating. We want you to treat us as individuals and not as mere products of your (or our) upbringing.
9) "You complete me."

We've seen "Jerry Maguire" and most other romantic comedies far more often than you, and while we may (or may not) like cheesy movie lines, they usually fail in real life. We understand that the possibility of romance makes inexplicable things come out of a man's — and sometimes a woman's — mouth, but keep the compliments real and honest and sincere and say you love someone when you mean it.

10) "Do you really think you should be eating that?"

Yes. She should be eating it. Even if she told you she's given it up.

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#23 ne: 02-06-2009, 08:28:13
Acne Problems

Acne is a condition where an individual\'s skin has long term and particularly problematic break outs. This is the result of a hormone imbalance and impacts most frequently during puberty or periods of hormone changes. Many times these break outs can result in peer ridicule or a decrease in self esteem or self confidence. The condition can have severely negative effects on a person\'s social life. The full name of the condition is Acne Vulgaris. While this inflammatory disease is annoying and can be a bit painful or unsightly, it is not any kind of serious threat to physical health.

An enlargement of the Sebaceous Glands can lead to a build up of sebum, which will clog the hair follicles and pores in the skin and result in severe breakouts. This enlargement of the Sebaceous Glands is a form of inflammatory disease, and often has nothing to do with poor skin hygiene or an unhealthy diet like some other  breakouts of the skin. Acne is an extremely common problem (about 85% of people experience some form of acne during adolescence or early adulthood). High stress levels, or use of anabolic steroids can also cause forms of acne. Although in most cases hygiene is not a factor in the development of acne, it can exacerbate the problem. A “hands off” policy when it comes to acne is the best policy, as scratching at breakouts can also worsen the condition, as it is conducive to the growth of bacteria that cause pimples and breakouts of the skin.  Intravenous use of opiates has also been linked to breakouts. Acne will usually diminish or disappear altogether as a person ages. The hormones testosterone and dihydrotestosterone have been linked in correlation with this inflammatory disease.

Acne is usually found on the face and forehead. Acne on the chest, back and neck is less common but still normal. Acne is somewhat hereditary but if a history of bad acne in your family does not guarantee that you will suffer from the disease. Another skin condition called Roseacea is similar to acne but usually forms later in life, during adulthood. Acne mostly affects people during adolescence or periods of increased stress due to work or family life.
While the correlation between a poor diet and the severity of this disease is generally highly debated, some foods have been found to make existing conditions worse. These foods may include food that has a high amount of refined sugars, or those with a high concentration of iodine. The impact of these foods is usually negligible, if you have problematic acne you may want to try to stay away from them. Again, the relationship between food and acne is minimal at best, so refraining from eating these foods may or may not reduce or impact acne at all.
Because of the correlation between acne and hormones, medications that manipulate these hormones may be used to treat the condition. Other medications include topical creams, and deep cleansing products that may be sold over the counter or are prescribed by a dermatologist. It is important to remember that the disease is extremely widespread, especially during adolescence and is a fairly normal experience for many people.
Acne can leave deep scars in its wake. These scars can be treated with laser therapy, in which a technician will minutely remove raised skin around the scars leaving the surface of the skin more uniform and will eliminate pitting of the skin. There are many more options when dealing with acne or the long term effects it has on the skin. If this condition is a problem for you, it is possible a dermatologist will be able to help or minimize breakouts over time. Although there is no “cure” for the disease, a dermatologist can lessen it's intensity or the long term damage that may occur as a result of acne.

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#24 ne: 06-06-2009, 19:50:01
By Dave Singleton

Breaking up is hard to do

“Who ended it?”
This was the first post-breakup question I received from several well-meaning friends who wanted to know the details. On the one hand, I understood the salacious curiosity, but does it really matter who played which role in the end? Aberdeen resident Richard, 35, doesn’t think so. “Why does breaking up have to be an ‘egos gone wild’ free-for-all?” he asks. “Even though my ex initiated our split, I didn’t want to be mean to her. If the relationship wasn’t right for her, then it wasn’t right for us.”

While a completely painless parting might not be realistic, when two good people just can’t make a go of their romance, they can leave with their pride intact, with a few caveats; for one, there must be genuine caring, respect, and solid communication (in fact, it’s best to err on the side of over-communication about feelings) and no serious violations of trust during the relationship. Though that’s not always the way things unfold. Jane, 39, who lives in Liverpool, was shocked and devastated when her partner of 14 years, John, 42, came home one day with an announcement: He was in love with a mutual friend, with whom he had been cheating for two years. The acrimony continues to this day.

I was more fortunate. My partner Vicki and I were coupled for nearly five years. No one did anything wrong; there was no melodrama or third party. We talked and listened until we came to the sad realization that ours was a friendship, not a romantic partnership. That we came to a mutual decision doesn’t imply that we woke up one morning and calmly agreed to part. But we knew we wanted our relationship to end as well as possible, with no one left devastated in the wake. Here are the guidelines we followed that helped us achieve that goal.
Realise that even good relationships can end.
We have a tendency to think that breaking up means total failure, which hurts our pride. Relationships, even the good ones, sometimes run their course without it being anyone’s fault. Says Jason, 31, of Devon, “It really hurt to see my last relationship dissolve, but I felt better about things when I reminded myself that I had shared my life with someone for 3 years and was capable of a long-term relationship. That got me out of the wallowing in self pity after a while.”

Make a clean break.
Holding on to something that’s irretrievably broken will make you feel desperate and sad. Isn’t it hard to keep your pride and ego intact if you stay on the emotional roller coaster? In most cases, clean breaks are generally better than quasi-breakups, which might lead you to act impulsively in ways you’ll regret later (i.e., sleeping with an ex with heightened expectations of reconciling). You can agree to be on friendly terms, but seeing each other regularly and calling each other frequently can just cause the situation to linger in a painful, emotional nowhere-land. Says Maria, 35, of Bournemouth: “At first, I told myself staying good friends with Tom was a sign that we were both mature and cared for each other. But then I realized I really wasn’t able to move ahead and meet someone new as long as Tom was in my life. I was secretly hoping we’d get back together. It was only when I pretty much ended our contact that I could go out and start dating again.”

Accept the breakup.
In his book, It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken: The Smart Girl’s Break-Up Buddy, author Greg Behrendt jolts his readers out of denial with this assertion: You can’t make a person love you, and why in the world would you want to be with anyone who doesn’t want to be with you? The romance is o-v-e-r. You need to move on and create a new life for yourself. That means turning to your friends and family (or a licensed professional counsellor) for support, not your ex; exploring your interests or finding new ones; and forcing yourself to focus on your present and future, not the past.

Take the time needed to gain closure.
Whether you are the one doing the breaking up or the one being broken up with, there’s no substitute for time when it comes to closure. As you two discuss your plan to separate, talk and listen to your soon-to-be ex until you both understand and empathize. Ask and answer questions honestly, and don’t avoid the necessary but painful discussions that could help you or your ex move on. Yes, it’s important to respect space and privacy at a time like this, but if you are left with lingering doubts of “What went wrong?” it will be hard to go forward.

Take the high road.
During a breakup, avoid bad-mouthing your ex. Don’t say mean things about him, or send overt (or covert) messages through mutual acquaintances. Avoid romantic “reindeer games” like spreading gossip, dating his friends, or doing anything that will come off as an obvious sign of insecurity or pettiness. While it may be tempting in the moment to unleash some of your hurt feelings this way, in the long run, it can just perpetuate the bad feelings and bad karma. Handling the situation without malice and vengefulness is the mature way to go.

Don’t overlap relationships.
Even if you have a new romantic interest, don’t enter into a new romance too soon, especially if you are the one initiating the breakup, flaunting a new love too soon can only wound your ex’s pride and make a split more acrimonious.

Bottom line:
Whether you the one breaking up or the one being broken up with, half of a mutual decision to break up, do your best to extend love and consideration to a soon-to-be ex. To preserve pride and egos, it doesn’t matter who ended it. It only matters how.

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